Eleven hand written notes filled with gratitude and gratefulness for the things people in my life did for me. There were the three dinners I had at friend’s houses that included a great amount of laughter and connection and the feeding of my three children.
One went to the paralegal who was kind and understanding.
And one to the lawyer who made my stomach ache with laughter with stories about his dad, including hilarious imitations.
One went to the pizza delivery guy (really) who was on time and just downright jovial, like he always is! Another went to a friend who I miss and had been thinking about far too long not to send something.
Gushing “OMG can you believe I’m here?” Gushing “Oh! I hate this cold LA weather but at least I can where my favorite jacket.” Gushing “I am so grateful to be on your list of come-over-and-swim people!”
I’m gushing because I’m standing here and it feels like, really, honest to God……like
I’m back. Functioning smiling and laughing in this new life without him.
I’m gushing because I am the miracle.
Because I am standing in a place that I saw from way below but had no idea how bright and shiny and clear and humbling it would be stand way up here!
Write here in the writing is where I would add all the clichés! “Life is rich. I’m looking through rose colored glasses. You can only live life once so enjoy it. Blah, blah, blah.”
I was angry today and I in that anger I started to giggle. It’s so funny that I’m angry over _________!!! Poof. Out it went.
I looked in the mirror today. Yup have put on a pound or two.
Followed by a SHRUG!!!???
After which quickly came “Who cares! You got that new sexy bikini to wear!”
WHO CARES????? That has never been uttered in the same sentence with the words “weight” and “gain” and “few pound.”
“You are an amazing host.
You have such a good eye for art.
Just hearing your voice takes my anxiety from a 10 to a 3 and I want to thank you for that.
________ (one of my kid’s names here) I am so very grateful to be your mother. Your _____ (pick specific talent, sense of humor, clarity, ability to explain) is such a gift.
Today while walking to me car, “Excuse me. Mr. Dragonfly? Thank you so much for flitting by the pond just now. It was such a gorgeous sight to see.”
I’m gushing. How did I get to be so lucky? How is it possible I can be filled with THIS much gratitude and have buried my husband just over 455 days ago? What a difference a day makes has a WHOLE new meaning!
I am the miracle.
I am not supposed to be here and yet here I am.
And gushing because all those little itty bitty moments, those tiny, tiny milliseconds where I told myself
“This will get easier.
This will not always hurt so much.
You CAN walk through this, toenail at a time"
Have proven to be true.
It was one shitty, slog from hell to get here.
I leave with the kids for a vacation tomorrow.
I think I need to go to the bank again before we leave. I have a feeling this gushing is gonna cost me a lot in tips for the cab drivers, baggers and the parents of the cute kid who I am lucky enough to get a smile from.
Gushing. I really like that word.