tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-33769806.post3768224006556365486..comments2023-05-02T07:27:42.719-07:00Comments on Healing Art: June 15, 2009Kim T. Hamerhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/03244518692465692579noreply@blogger.comBlogger10125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-33769806.post-25128151547608169092009-06-23T17:00:13.685-07:002009-06-23T17:00:13.685-07:00Great writing, great blog! I added you to my blogr...Great writing, great blog! I added you to my blogroll, Cancer Blog Links, at www.beingcancer.net. Also...Open invitation to you and your readers to participate in the Being Cancer Book Club. This month we are discussing “The Last Lecture” by Randy Pausch. “...the lecture he gave ... was about the importance of overcoming obstacles, of enabling the dreams of others, of seizing every moment (Dennis Pyritz, RNhttp://www.beingcancer.netnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-33769806.post-14843694936771201692009-06-21T09:05:07.848-07:002009-06-21T09:05:07.848-07:00Kim, thanks so much for sharing this. I remember y...Kim, thanks so much for sharing this. I remember you saying to me (before Art died), "I don't know where our marriage is heading." I had no idea what this meant and I felt confused. But never having been married I thought this was "code" for something only married people could understand.jill hamerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01075609375220357344noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-33769806.post-63576123668317473662009-06-16T19:43:42.264-07:002009-06-16T19:43:42.264-07:00Wow, I am just discovering your very powerful acco...Wow, I am just discovering your very powerful account of your husband's last days and your loss. I'll keep reading. Hopefully we can connect and share. <br /><br />I'm so sorry for your loss! <br /><br />X<br /><br />SupaSupa Dupa Freshhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07659738264922395349noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-33769806.post-86537506222894493122009-06-16T12:45:07.702-07:002009-06-16T12:45:07.702-07:00Loss is loss, no matter what kind of guilt, confli...Loss is loss, no matter what kind of guilt, conflict, estrangement, frustrations, good times, and times of peace you go through. Going through the process of grieving for that loss basically sucks because of all that it brings up. Because of your honesty and openness about all that you've gone through just means that you are dealing with every piece of it and becoming a stronger person. ItAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-33769806.post-72072743448292816202009-06-16T05:27:07.784-07:002009-06-16T05:27:07.784-07:00You don't know me but I feel your pain. We are...You don't know me but I feel your pain. We aren't in the same situation, and yet it feels the same.<br /><br />28 days ago my husband walked out. I was not prepared, had no idea, thought we had a great marriage. And now I try to remember the bad times we had because remembering the good hurts too bad.<br /><br />But you can remember the good because he didn't make this choice. If Wendyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17643438802935893718noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-33769806.post-54763803139133192632009-06-15T20:22:52.173-07:002009-06-15T20:22:52.173-07:00Kim, First of all, I am so proud of you for allowi...Kim, First of all, I am so proud of you for allowing yourself the relief of this burden by sharing it. Now you are not alone in it. I've been holding your secret because it was never mine to share. But that's just the job of being a friend. What you did takes courage. I admire you for the strength it took to be there for Art before and during the cancers. A weaker person might not have Carriehttp://www.wouldntitbnice.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-33769806.post-49337675554342709322009-06-15T19:41:00.580-07:002009-06-15T19:41:00.580-07:00I'm sorry if my words are ineloquent. I always...I'm sorry if my words are ineloquent. I always hesitate to comment on things like this because I lack the right words.<br /><br />{{cyberhug}}Heatherhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01979925607834752536noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-33769806.post-3953110103808596312009-06-15T19:39:36.828-07:002009-06-15T19:39:36.828-07:00I'm trying to come up with the words to expres...I'm trying to come up with the words to express what I want to say and coming up short. You did, you do, what you need to do at the time and that's all anyone can ask.<br /><br />People are imperfect, relationships are imperfect even the best of them.<br /><br />The thing I wish for all those who survive a loved-one's death is for them to realize that we all do the best we can, with Heatherhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01979925607834752536noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-33769806.post-40724945268592408352009-06-15T19:22:00.710-07:002009-06-15T19:22:00.710-07:00You are so strong, I think I would have crumbled a...You are so strong, I think I would have crumbled and withered away faced with what you are going through. And the baggage will get lighter and probably welcome at times. From where I stand You and Art were in this together Start to finish, whenever, where ever the finish line is.<br />Take care sweetie.Marlahttp://www.avapidblonde.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-33769806.post-1434612410529508442009-06-15T15:17:09.484-07:002009-06-15T15:17:09.484-07:00I don't think you have to reconcile the two th...I don't think you have to reconcile the two things (actually, I don't think you *have* to do anything...there is no manual for this, and the only rules are the ones that keep you breathing through this at the end of the day)....you can mourn whatever part of the loss, and whatever part of the man, that feels real to you. It makes no difference where you were headed. You are where you Eugeniehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13303962779123449079noreply@blogger.com